My following comments are not intended as cynicism, trolling, fatuousness, or any other negative descriptor, I ask a basic question to which I would be interested in learning some of the possible answers.
Does it matter? Not, whether or not everyone's given up on this thread, but does it matter whether virtual particles are real or not? Virtual particles 'perform' at scales of time and space, and in a medium, that is utterly beyond the experience and mental acuity of a bunch of hyped-up African Apes to understand without the application of a pile of complex metaphors (disguised as mathematics). In my first year of science at secondary school one of the teachers misquoted someone (and I misremembered the misquote) as defining an atom as "a hole, in a hole, round a hole, on a hole". I have been more than comfortable with that definition ever since. I accept the decriptions of atoms and particles and fields and forces as being convenient labels to help us take a stab at describing "what's going on". But the map is not the territory and an art critic's review of a Picasso is most certainly not the Picasso. Do I have it wrong?