I would guess that it's a combination of two things. Firstly, that humans are a freakish development, and that intelligent life that has comparable technology is very very unlikely.
If you accept that humans are a one in a million freak, then look at what the Earth would be like without us. Chimps and Bonobos would be top of the technology tree. Dolphins and Orcas might match them for intelligence. And that would be it on Earth.
Human numbers at one point dropped to the low thousands, it would easily have happened that we went extinct. So but for one freakish species, even this Earth would have been totally unable to communicate with other worlds.
It's entirely possible that life would never again produce intelligence on the human scale. It might just hit a ceiling time after time, and we are total freaks.
The other factor is the huge distances involved in trying to communicate. If there are technologies out there in the Milky Way, they are probably far too distant to ever be able to get a signal through.
After all, we are only just now able to detect a shadow on a star, caused by a planet, at these distances. No imaginable technology could match the scale of that type of signal.