Maybe someone can quickly clear up a problem I have with the possibility that gravity is mediated by an elementary particle, the Graviton, that is massless and propagates at the speed of light. As I understand it, it's considered hypothetical at the moment, meaning it's considered as one possibility.
I can't see how it's possible. My reasoning is pretty simplistic. Take a black hole at the centre of a galaxy. It's gravity clearly affects the stars and materials that are orbiting it. We can calculate the mass of the black hole by how it's gravity affects everything else. But how can a boson escape a black hole, and affect the surrounding stars? As I understand it, nothing can escape a black hole. Photons are massless bosons, that travel at the speed of light, but they can't exit a black hole, so how could a graviton? Is it immune to the action of other gravitons? Is that theoretically possible?
Please don't respond by saying that the existence of the graviton is not accepted theory, I already know that.
The question of this OP is, can it's existence be positively discounted, for the reason I've given above? And if not, why not?