People are missing one important factor: when the asteroid disintegration will occur.
The Earth, moving at ~30 km/s around the Sun, and a diameter of ~12742 km, moves away by its entire diameter in just ~ 7 minutes.
In order for all the parts of a disintegrated asteroid to hit the Earth, the disintegration would have to occur in less than just a minutes before the final impact. Which is highly unlikely, if humanity makes any attempt.
Most of the Earth's surface is ocean. Most asteroids and meteors that hit the Earth's surface end up in the sea. The impact of a large object in the ocean creates a high tsunami, and the energy is dissipated over a very large area, and coastal areas are most at risk.