Dear Bettina,
After having read through this thread, The best I can do is to make some observations about your condition, and perhaps we can figuree out some remedy. Hopefully, what I post will be of some use to you. I like your approach in reaching an understand it without the use of non-natural "psychic" or "ESP" explanations. One poster said it well,"there are no extra-sensory perceptions, just perceptions.
These simply lead you into more unknown territory and ultimately are not useful for remedial purposes. Of course what I write will probably come out sounding very scientific and perhaps too straightforward, but then you are on a science forum, so you know what types of creatures we are ?
Let us consider the case of the young boy is afraid of dogs. Whenever our boy sees a dog, he has a response in which he becomes frightened, with all the mental, emotional and physical (and thus biochemical) changes. He may not know at the time why he is afraid of dogs, only that he is. What usually has happenned in these cases is that at some time in the past (maybe much younger, as an enfant) he had a bad encounter with a canine. Perhaps he only encountereed a little nip from a chiwawa (sp?-promounce phonetically) then had the memory of it. Every time therafter when he saw a dog, he became afraid, thus re-enforcing the response. This is what is called a conditioned response.
More generally, this was the subject of the well known "Pavlov's Dogs" experiments. The dogs exhibited a physical and chemical response (they salivated) in their bodies when they heard a bell, because they received food soon after the bell rang. This response was re-enforced by consistently dispensing food some short time after the bell rang.
In the case of our caninophobe young boy, he sensed the dog by obvious sensory clues (i.e. visual, auditory). Although every encounter with a dog is different for our boy, his physical reaction is consistent. The learned reaction is repeated, and re-enforced. Perhaps however, he has become more selective in his reaction. He no longer fears a dog he sees outside his window, as he knows the dog cannot get to him.(this "selectivity" thus varies by the situation)
A related and curious bit of information perhaps worth mentioning here is that there are in fact several specific chems of a certain class (PEAs) have a side effect that has been consistently reported as "empathetic feelings" (there are other sdie efefects as well). Some psychiatrists have studied and reported their use during psychotherapy sessions with enhanced results in many cases.
REmember, the reason these organic chemicals have these effects on the human body is that they molecularly resemble one or several natural biochemicals in the body.(a receptor model is used for reception, not important right now).
If you wish to think of it this way, you might ask yourself is if what you experience is indeed a conditioned response to the clues of sadness and pain in those around you.(Even in your Jessica encounter could have been a conditioned response produced by the news story). When you sense this sadness and misfortune you respond by becoming empathetic, like the boy who was physically frightened by the dogs. It also seems as if you have also become selective.
For our little boy, there are a few options ;
- Make the boy mor selective, until he is no longer afraid. Perhaps the boy is exposed to puppies for a time, then to progressively larger dogs.
- Mentally, physiologically or chemically the response is inhibited. Mentally, he focuses and he braves it up to a dog, and repeats this behavior. In the chemical ideal, our boy could takes a med that temporarily suppresses secretion of the cortical steriods epinephrine and/or nor-epinephrine.
- He could try to recall, and psychologically resolve the initial event that began the behavior.
If you believe that this applies to you, how might you apply these ideas or a combination of them. Are there any others that might inhibit the behavior ?