Have I understood correctly that the resonance hybrid orbital does not represent any actual orbital (with new shape) in the molecule? If a new orbital would form then only two electrons could be there but there are many examples where different pair of electrons can go an occupy the same orbital in different resonance structures (e.g. conductive polymers could not function otherwise). Moreover if one huge hybrid orbital would form then it could be very big which leads to larger energy level for electrons as more nodes must form, which means higher frequency which mean higher energy...
Meaning, the electron pairs that can move around can be only in pi-bonds and AO-s just like in resonance structures. But the energy difference between these orbitals is very small so the electrons can move very fast between them. As a result the molecule cannot be though of as one resonance structure but the combination of many. Is this correct?