mike90

I find it hard to envision China trying to keep people happy. Theirform of government has traditionally been a little heavy handed. I could see them some day having the wealth, but not the diplomacy for world takeover

I get normal sympathetic feelings to global situations most of the time. I cant imagine surviving it if i could pick up pain on a level like that. Mine usually requires personal contact of some kind.

Well I am sorry if my comments offended anyone. i'm not here for attention, or to lay claim to having superpowers. I know to the skeptical some of the things stated in here may sound like nonsense. But to people dealing with this who don't know where to go, it's nice to have somewhere to share experiences. And to know your not alone. Anything I;ve posted in here, for the most part, has been to help people like me who most liekly have no clue where to go for support. I know i still don't.

Some examples of physical/mental side effects of my empathy to contrast to the ones bettina's mentioned: voilent shaking, almost like a seizure, loss of physical or mental energy, leaving me feeling exhausted or having difficulty concentrating, severe spikes of depression, vague images in my mind of faces or names(rare). Also once experienced something i don't quite know hotw to describe, but I'll try since it was the most moving experience of my life. Something like a " mind meld" effect, leaving you feeling like you and the person you experience it with are melded into one entity. Probably the happiest experience of my entire life. Complete feeling of emotonal security and peace.Also i can almost always tell other empathics from other people. They have something different about them you can just feel from the "energy" of a "normal" person.

I was having a really horrible week when i posted that, and was rather depressed that i had no one i could call and talk to. My current theory is that the empathy is tied into emotional trauma in some way, but im not sure of how it all works yet

Well unlike most of you guys, im not much of a researcher I could never hope to match pangloss on statistics, but i was never really trying to argue it with statistics. I dont expect everyone or even anyone to agree with me, only sharing my pov. It may seem bitter, but i grew up in poverty, and have spent most of my adult life in poverty despite my best efforts , until recently, to find the mythic " good job" . So i dont expect any of you to take my word for it, just sharing a pov from that underclass we were speaking of

Im always told that i come off as intimidating or rude. Sigh. It's hard being shy, and a lot of people tend to misread it and i dont smile too much, so hence i guess i must look mean lol. I'm about the most laid back person ever too. Sadly about the only attention im getting right now is messages on my cell from my psycho ex

Quite snippy lol. I don't have pages full of statistics to back up what im saying, i never said i did. Its a combination of the reading i have done on the subject with the experiences of myself and others i know. If you disagree thats fine, i dont know what experience your basing your views on. It is a bit of a subjective topic, though im sure someone will argue that lol.

Well my point is still if the model is the same everywhere there aren't too many places to go. I dont recall offhand the titles of some of the other books ive read along the same line. Fast Food nation is the latest one ive read. And yes mangers and etc SHOULD make more, but the disparity can be overly ridiculous sometimes. And I've not met a manager yet that had any 3 college degrees, a lot of them are moved up from within with no prior training. And it would sure be nice if moving up in most jobs anymore was about hard work and not politics within the business.

Maybe i should also state that my comments aren't made out of bitterness due to a current situation. I'm at a job right now that pays 9.50 an hour, and an extra buck after 5, which is when i get most of my hours. I also have the options for 401k , and to buy stock with a matching 15% for all stock i buy. As well as medical and dental. Not superb pay, but i easily support myself and another person on it with plenty of money to spare. Been through a lot finding this job though lol. And i have tried getting in to a lot of the jobs that have been mentioned such as construction, warehouse, etc, but it can be amazingly hard to get into something like that in an urban area. Genereally you find yourself up against dozens of people with years of experience whenever anything like that opens up around here. Don't know if its as hard everywhere, but this is where my life is.

Well Fast Food Nation is a decent book to start with. And in a lot of places everything entry level pays crap wages, so the option of one crap job over another isn't too great. What i feel like is being glossed over is what is a livable, not opulent but livable wage, is affordable to most successful companies. They just prefer to pay people as little as possible. Most of my pov is from reading ive done on the subject, and from my work experience. i've worked for lots of large companies where the business was making a large profit, the mangers were making a decent amount of money, and everyone else gets 7.50 an hour. 15 dollars an hour IS an unusual pay rate for something like a Mcdonalds. What happens when every major company decides to keep wages at/around the poverty level? Should everyone then have to become a lawyer or neurosurgeon to have a job that enables them to afford a crappy one room apartment?

Also a large part of that 95% is people working at various low paying jobs because that is simply all thaat is available in their area. Where i live it can be hard to find a job doing anything, and i know several people that have been searching for months, some of them with a lot of experience and education

No its not idelogical nonsense, maybe you should do some reading on the behavior of corporations, and no im not talking about michael moore. A concrete reason that so many are poor isn't due to stupidity or laziness on their part, but greed on the part of the companies employing them. Something as small as the difference between 7 dollars an hour and 9 is the difference between someone being self sufficient and struggling. I'm not suggesting McDonalds should start paying people 15 dollars an hour, a rather small adjustment is all that would be needed. It is a fact that large companies fight to keep wages down, and a lot of industries such as the fast food industry have organized in order to do make it easier to do so. No offense but this level of intellectual superiority simply ignores the facts about what the government has been doing with business subsidies for many years, and about the business model that large companies have made standard in recent years. Maybe you should research the subject just a bit before you call all of what i say idealogical nonsense. And contrary to popular belief, most companies CAN afford to pay people a livable wage. It is simple greed in many cases

Lol @ Lyssia. But i know what she means. Seems like genuinely interesting people are few and far between, and usually married or something by the time i meet them =(

Most of those are jobs that require training or experience to have a shot at getting the job, and have high turnover. And most jobs cut wages far below what is needed for profability, simply out of greed. The " stigma" doesn't seem to apply when you try to apply for one of these jobs and find yourself against dozens of people, most of them with years of experience.

Here your making a lot of rather large assumptions. First off not everyone has the aptitude or the opportunity to go to college. your point assums everyone has the same chance at success, which is untrue. Second a college degree is no guarantee of finding and keeping a good job, the job market is very competitive in today's world. Third a lot of the large corporations fight to keep wages as low as possible , and to keep employees from unionizing. They employ both lobbyists and " campaign contributions" ( bribes) to see that wages stay low. there is also quite a lot of outsourcing of jobs so american businesses can pay someone in Mexico or India 3 dollars an hour instead of paying an american 12 or 15 dollars an hour to do it. They are also working hard to make as much of the job done by machines as possible so they dont have to deal with training people, or paying more for experienced workers. They're basically trying to turn people into numbers that are easily disposable. saying everyone in America should have to have a degree to get a job that pays basic living expenses seems rather absurd, and counter to how things were done until fairly recently. Before anyone assumes that all the working poor are morons or lazy, maybe they should do some research into the subject

There are far many just scarping by then you think. next time you go into almost any consumer based business take a look around. the people working at your grocery store, retial stores etc are the ones scraping by. I've been there before working 40 hours a week, then trying to figure vout how your going to afford groceries. The problem is that big business and government have kind of united to ensure a persistent poor working force. There are quite a lot of low income folks out there that could benefit from a tax break

Everything not understood does not have to be impossible.

Hm it prolly is true in general that people tend to project qualities they are looking for into people. I've certainly noticed myself doing this before. I have a hard time looking at tommorow or next wednesday instead of where i want to be 5 years from now.

Lance has it exactly. Unfortunately in my limited social circle a lot of the girls i meet are pretty superficial =( . And the ones that aren't are so hard to read. At my age it often seems im in the minority in that im looking for a relationship, and not " action"

No clue. im guessing it was some problem with the main body of his posting and not one or two. Haven't had time to parse through all his posts. Still a mystery to me

Because after 3 years in a relationship, I'ts really hard talking to girls that haven't had time to adjust to my... eccentricities. Slightlly off topic, what would you all say constitutes flirting. I've met someone and im trying to figure out if she's sending me signals or I'm just a moron. Although i suppose both its possible for both of those to be occuring simultaneously =0

Aw me really? Well after a bit more time here I have a bigger list: Lyssia, lenale, Lance Richardbatty, Yt, Klaynos, In My Memory, Bettina, Metafrizzics, Phi for all, Sayo, Glider,Clara, Azure, Coquina, Mokele, Swansont. Im sure im forgetting a bunch too. Most of you seem like pretty cool people =)

oh god am i having a bad day. im falling apart and i cant seem to pull myself together. The sad thing is im on here cause i have nowhere else to go

Wow you sure have a good head on your shoulders Clara. My relationship with my gf was really rocky anyway so I guess in time I'll be alright. The only part that really bothers me is i stayed in it for her benefit more then once when i really didn't want to be in it anymore. And then she goes off and meets someone and leaves me after i stayed with her because she can't handle being alone and supposedly couldn't live without me. Well im officially done living my life trying to do what everyone else wants.