1. Both experience a 100km/h collision; measured from either frame
2.Car and wall experience a 50km/h collision; measured from either frame
3. Both cars experience a 50km/h collision; measured from either frame.
It follows that 2 and 3 will experience the same degree of collision.
Whichever frame you measure from you are the stationary observer.. what that means is, in scenario 1, for example, the car opposite the observer vehicle is measured travelling at the combined velocities of the two vehicles; velocities are additive in ron-relativistic physics