loggia

Hi everyone: I'm new to the forum, but I hope you won't mind if I start with a question. I'm 27 now, and ever since I was 15 I've had the same dream over and over. I'm having a normal dream and then suddenly a man comes into my bedroom and stands next to my bed and says he has something he has to tell me. I can't see the man, it's more like I sense his presence and can read his thoughts. I think this is a lucid dream because whenever it happens I start fighting the paralysis feeling like mad and trying to wake myself up. Usually, I'll then dream that I have managed to wake myself up, only to realize that I'm still asleep and the whole thing starts all over. The first time it happened I told my father about it and he said I had to listen to what the man had to say- but it's been 12 years and I still haven't managed it- the man's presence just scares me so much. I think this might be connected to a dream I had when I was 11- I dreamt that I woke up and two balls of light were floating next to my bed and speaking to each other with streams of electricity that shot back and forth between them. But that experience wasn't scary in the least, I simply pulled the covers over my head and went back to sleep, so maybe these two dreams are unrelated. Anyway, how do I make myself calm down and listen to the man? 12 years is too long! Thanks!