I'm really not working in this area at all, so my thoughts might be right off, and if there is good reason, I'm quite happy to abandon this line of enquiry... anyway, on to my issue with gravitons.
Firstly, by the equivalence principle if we imagine ourselves in a box which is being accelerated, we cannot tell whether it is being accelerated at 1g towards a planet which is below us, or accelerated at 1g by a rocket moving upwards (relative to the box) in free space - both cases in an otherwise empty universe. in my box I have a hypothetical 'graviton detector' which is good enough to detect gravitons from a planet (in reality no such thing could exist, because you'd need a detector the size of jupiter orbiting a neutron star for 10 years just to make a single measurement)
now if we consider gravitons being emitted from the planet towards the box, we have lots of sources - a whole planet's worth. but if we consider the empty universe with a box on a rocket, then there is no source.
so what is the source? when we consider other force carriers, like photons, they are emitted from a source (accelerating electron/proton or something like that), but with the graviton it is not so trivial. Both of these cases should result in an ideal detector as mentioned above detecting the same number of gravitons, but where are they coming from? First thoughts are something related to the curvature of space itself but it's not clear where to go with that.