"Hive" may have been the wrong term, "communal group" would be more appropriate after giving it some thought.
All the same I do not think that it is inevitable, or even nearly so, for a intelligant species to destroy itself.
Also alien evolution may have some parallels to earth. After all eyes, an important sensory organ, developed on earth for the first time in two evolutionary separated groups. Mollusks, and vertebrates. No creature in the two races common ancestry had anything like eyes, yet both developed very similar eye anatomy. This is an example of parallel evolution, two different types of life with similar requirements, or in some cases ecological niches, will occasionally develop very similar traits.
Another example would be the similarity between rodent, and rabbit related species. Some people, assume rabbits and rodents are closely related. They are not, they have similarities because of common ecological niches.