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ParanoiA

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  1. Why? I liked your posts. Then they suddenly went away...
  2. Actually that's not true. I listened to Hastart yesterday on Rush Limbaugh, and he made it very clear that they knew about some letters in 2002, and talked with Foley and his attorneys at that time. Apparently there was little to go on, but they met about the situation anyway. The emails from 2003 were not known by Hastart and company, until a few days ago when all of this blew up. That's why Hastart was talking about pursuing this from an "obstruction" point of view. Someone sat on this evidence for 3 years now. What if that kid was being molested all of this time? That's disgusting and shameful. I'll bet this is going to lead back to some punk journalist. But hey, for once, folks are being caught BEFORE they commit the crime. Think about that. Most of the time we're hearing empty apologies "to the friends and family" blah blah blah after they've scarred someone for life. If the republicans are smart, they'll spin the angle that he was caught before damage could be done.
  3. Well I don't think you need your prescription checked since out of all the comments I made about people changing, you apparently found the one occurence I slipped up. You got me. But in my defense, I did mean that a little more loosely than that. Like when your kid comes home and says "everyone is doing it". But hey, words mean things and this is a science forum so I stand corrected. But we're arguing past each other. I completely agree with everything you're saying. You're absolutely right. Rhino and I were just talking this morning about how inexperienced youth view everything black and white, good or evil, etc. I've found as I've gotten older and hopefully somewhat wiser that the more I learn, the more I realize how much I don't know. And yet, if my young girlfriend cheats on me, I'm going to kick her to the curb because the odds are she's going to do it again, because most of the time, almost 100%, they don't change. They just alter their behavior which they can only keep up for so long and eventually they give in to it. That's humans for ya'. My circle of friends has changed over time and I've met all kinds. But, birds of a feather flock together. So, maybe all I've met is non-changable people. Or, maybe I'm right afterall. Maybe what you perceive as people who have changed, are really people who haven't yet shown or given in to their true colors. Or maybe I did take too much LSD in high school...
  4. Ok, let's take a look at her comment: Nope, I don't see the inferiority or "losers" implication in her point. In fact, she's saying the opposite. The moment the Jane Doe decided that she was "disenfrachised" or arguably a "loser", then the entire system was doomed. She clearly believes that single moms that work at Wal-mart for 5 dollars an hour aren't losers and aren't disenfrachised. I'm inclined to agree. And the fact you make 11 dollars an hour at Wal-mart doesn't mean squat. Different areas of the country will pay differently due to the changes in economy as you travel across the country. You might make 5 dollars an hour in Catoosa, Oklahoma or you might make 15 dollars an hour doing the same job in New York. And that has nothing at all to do with her point.
  5. I believe the government keeps the records and they are apparently up for sale. I heard all of this on the radio on my way home one night. It was Jerry Agar, a conservative talk show guy. Specifically it was targeting people who don't vote. There is a group here in Missouri that is calling people up who didn't vote to try to get them to the voter booth - to ultimately vote for their candidate of course. And for the record, if I remember correctly, the information shows who voted and who didn't - not "what" they voted for or etc.. I like the Australian method. It sounds like a winner to me.
  6. Actually, it's a little more pragmatic than that. More people don't change in that respect than do change. I base this solely off of experience, which apparently has no merit with you, but it does with me. So, I'm just placing my bets accordingly. I never said people never change. I said they very rarely change. Usually they just change their mask, or temporarily change their behavior - but most of the time, they don't change at all. So, I'm sorry you interpret my opinion in this one matter as an indication of my entire mind being open or closed. If I didn't know any better, I might think your closed minded...
  7. Well, I agree that virtually none of this is necessary debt. You are right. But it's shortsighted to judge someone so harshly when they have mouths to feed and no help with it. Everyone needs downtime. It isn't healthy not to. I can't blame a mom for splurging the first chance she gets to get digital cable. A small bit of trivial pleasure compared to long, drawn out - not to mention thankless - workdays. And as a parent, it is absolutely tough to say no to your kids under some circumstances. For instance...you finally get little johnny to bring his grades up, after some rough disciplinary trials. His behavior and school commitment is finally looking up and he's doing the right thing. Now he's asking for an X-box. You've spent months trying to convince this kid that doing good in school and good behavior will earn him more priveledges. Only he still has to stay home till you get there because of his age, and he already has TV. All of his friends have an X-box and he's been so good... And when you see how easy it is for kids to go from doing great to doing horrible, you begin to fear every moment like this. If I say "no", will he think he did all of this for nothing? If I say "yes" will he think that everytime he does good I should buy him something? Kids aren't like adults, they don't see any wisdom at all in school work. Zero. Notta. Nothing. Anyway, I'm just rambling on and on here. My main point isn't that you're wrong - because you're right. It's just not the blatant immaturity and selfishness that you're implying. It's deeper than that. At least with most people, I think it's deeper than that.
  8. Careful. Yes he can be 19 years old and be mature enough to drink, but if the law says "no" then disregarding that law would be immature. I didn't say I agree with the law. I said disregard for the law is immature. Actually I didn't say it, Rhino did. I'm just his lawyer...
  9. At your age range, what else should really matter? Just have sex, learn about yourself, learn how to have sex unselfishly, discover and liberate. You have the rest of your life to get deeper and have an actual relationship. Women and men both need to experience a few things before making verbal contracts of monogamy. That's why all this cheating goes on at such a young age. You're in conflict with young hormonal impulses when you try to play grown up to early. Just my opinion of course...
  10. Yes, a "late-model" automobile since dependability becomes exponentially more important when you have no other help or resources but yourself. I don't know many single moms who have the time or knowledge to crawl under an early-model chevy and replace something every couple of weeks. A recently purchased computer and digital cable because it would be nice to wind down 14 hour days with a couple of hours of TV before going to bed to start all over again the next day. When you don't have a spouse to help, your job doubles. Or are you expecting an already over-worked mother to do without probably the only "escape" she has? Or should she go get a crack habit and drink her miserable life away like so many others do? I'm a middle class parent, happily married with a pretty good job. And I still can't hardly make ends meet. I still have to tell my kids "no" ten times to every one "yes". I can only imagine how much harder it is for a single mom to do all of this. Even less money and less resources and less sympathy from a self-righteous judgmental society. Meanwhile, she's the one who has to look at her children and tell them "no" over and over again. Eventually, you have to put the future ahead of the present if you're going to live a decent life. You go into debt and do your best to make your kids happy, and try not to let it get out of control. I have a lot of sympathy for single moms, and a lot of resentment for jerk off dead beat punk men that run out on their responsibilities. As a man, I'm disgusted by this reputation. Any man that pawns off his reponsibilities to a woman, isn't a man in my book. Sorry, pangloss. I guess I got off on a rant there.
  11. So, my question is: Will the stock holders, corporations - the wealthy - stop this outsourcing methodology before it's too late? Or, will something else happen to balance it out? This has long been a concern of mine. Being in the CWA union, we are seeing more and more of our jobs getting outsourced. Some are coming back, due to the language barrier, but most are never to be returned.
  12. Actually it is an excuse. That's like saying a drunk that drives his car in a ditch can't use Alcohol as an excuse. So why is DUI / DWI such a big deal? Alcohol screws up your sense of judgement, inhibitions, and etc. That's why I don't think alcohol should be our only legalized drug. Alcohol is the primary drug used by americans to get intoxicated. What a horribly stupid choice that is. Marijuana is a much better choice for intoxication. Your sense of judgement and your inhibitions are not nearly as effected, and there's no physical debilitation associated with it. The "no excuse" lies in doing the drinking in the first place. There's no excuse for getting drunk irresponsibly. There was no thinking going on there at all. But hey, it's all part of growing up.
  13. Rhino and I discussed this yesterday and came to the same basic conclusion. If she confesses to an act like this, then we think it's very likely it's the only indiscretion. However, if you "discover" it, then we think it's highly likely this is just one incident among many many indiscretions. Take that for what it's worth, but I will never, ever stay with a cheater. I need to know my mate is true to me - and by free will. I don't want to dedicate years of my life to someone who has to struggle just to stay faithful. That's a damn waiting to burst.
  14. Damn, that really sucks. Talk about mixed signals. Begging you to stay and forgive, the possessiveness - then turn right around and shop for another man. I guess this is what bothers me about youthful relationships. Most young women, particularly hotties, tend to continue shopping regardless of a monogamous relationship or not. I guess that's natural. Trying to score the best mate. But it's offensive.
  15. Well, I think he's pointing out the disregard for law to establish immaturity. Then using the established "immaturity" to explain the failure in the rest of their decisions. The government isn't a legitimator. Laws don't dictate what is right or wrong in the world. You can be 30 years old and still be too immature to drink responsibly.
  16. Just as well...I don't think anybody got my joke anyway...
  17. I didn't realize you were that fragile. You came across kind of snooty to me since I didn't have links of data sheets and a pie chart to support an opinion of cheaters and non-cheaters. I didn't think I would be expected to take that much time out of my life just to post in the general discussion thread on some dude's girl problems.
  18. Damn right it's an enabler. I've found that alcohol will "enabler" to do just about anything you want. Sorry...I just thought that was funny
  19. Older? I said experience, not just nor necessarily age. Because I have more experience means it has more "truthiness" than your opinion. I don't have to know the person...I know people. Yes maybe his girlfriend will turn out to be a little peach of bride that remains true for all of eternity. Or, maybe I'll be right, yet again, and she'll have a more-some with a biker gang behind a bar one night after they've had 3 kids and he's in debt up to his eyeballs paying for all of her sh!t. My money is on the latter as my "experience" says that's the better odds. No, I'm denying the reference to someone else's argument rather than you making your own. I appreciate your sourcing skills, but I have no interest in reading somebody's else's pithy take on using age and experience to shut up squirmy college kids.
  20. Experience always seems questionable and stuffy until you have it. Then you realize why you were wrong for so long...
  21. I know they're not married right now. I mean that these repeat offenses you speak of, aren't usually discovered until after they ARE married, or have children, financial entanglements...etc. Relationships can move fast, especially nowadays. Spare me your emotionally motivated appeal to pre-defined supposed logical fallacies you seem to worship so much. Experience is experience. You can't shortcut it, and you shouldn't ignore those with it. Sorry if it hurts your feelings, but it's just the truth dude. You'll see...
  22. You sound very young and inexperienced. That's what I would have said in my late teens, early twenties - before I knew better. Your repeated offenses argument would be at least tolerable except usually there are a couple of children and financial tangles before these repeated offenses show up. As a grown up, you have to have more backbone and foresight than that. You owe it to society and your offspring to make better decisions than that. If nothing else, engage your logical senses and do the math. It's not worth the chance. I realize in the high school and college world - where everyone knows everything yet has experienced nothing - that "repetition is NOT inevitable". However, when you get to be a grown up you figure out that it practically is inevitable. No one changes. They just act like it, or change the mask. But, they're still the same. It's very rare that someone actually changes.
  23. Also, what happened to the posts I saw last night? Rhino and Callipygous had some of their posts removed I think.
  24. What the hell has happened to the men in this forum? You all are acting like weiners. Reality check... When a woman takes me back after cheating on her, early in the relationship no less, then I know I can cheat on her again and she very likely will not leave me. And women are the same way. You're not laying down the law on her, or "how it's going to be" - she already knows you're going to do that. And she'll let you. And she'll cheat on you again someday, sooner or later, and let you "lay down the law of how it's going to be" again...and again..and again. You all are acting like there's a relationship to salvage. There are people who cheat and people who don't. And regardless of the movies, they very rarely ever change.
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