No. I don't accept that, 'we are going to the movies tonight at 8,' or similar sorts of demanding statements is an appropriate way to talk to or interact with your significant other. Both of those statements you made are indicative of an abusive and controlling relationship and it saddens me to know that there are women out there who think that sort of treatment is okay. I refuse to believe that a majority or even a sizable portion of women enjoy being made to submit to the will of the person they are with with respect to where they go, what they wear, etc. To my mind, a relationship is supposed to consist of two people on an equal playing field with give and take on both sides, not one person doing what the other person says all the time.
I also fail to see how, 'I assumed only men would be posting on this thread,' is at all an excuse for acting the misogynist.