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This is where the secret is, its the initial thought that one has to control. U always have choice, u choose what enters and what doesnt. We are not at mercy of life, its not what we feel that governs what we think but rather what we think that goerns what we feel. The problem is people have difficulty maintaining constent vigilance over their thoughts, but its only at the beggining that things are difficult then it becomes like everytrhing else a built in mechanism. Try it and you will see.

in regards to ur first answer i agree that people react different according to their perception of the event. My point being that we choose to react or not to react. If we have no control then criminals or padophiles would have no hope of ever being cured, phobias would never be dominated. At every miute of every day we have dozens of thoughts go through our heads but we choose what we want and don't want to react to. To say that something is impossible without trying would be pretty arrogant. I beleive we can control our thoughts and emotions because i have made a strong effort to eradicate my mind of any thought that i deemed hazourdous or unproductive to my wellbeing. Where do u think the term peace of mind comes from.

hey everyone, i beleive we can control our thoughts. An example i give is two people have exactly the same stimulus at the same time but react different, if we have no control then both should have reacted the same way. Another example is how many times have you been in a situation and got a thought but realised it wasnt appropriate so you pushed it away and started again. With regards to depression, the problem with depression is that emotion triguer thoughts and thoughts triger emotions so it becomes a vicious circle until we break the pattern and start to control either the thoughts or the emotions. It is hard at first but with enough will power slowly we start to eliminate all the thoughts and ultimatle the emotions we are not happy with. Until we are what we want to be and therefore in total control of our mind.