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But temporary tinnitus goes away. So maybe what seems to be permanent can simply need more time. As it get lower I become accustomed to it and I am still annoyed by it. But it keeps getting lower. Hopefully it will continue to do so. I would not mind being the first person to make a full recovery.

Both of these symptoms result from damage to the auditory nerves. I have had these two since 2002. Recently I have stopped listening to music, stopped listening to the TV, and stopped using the telephone, in addition to avoiding loud noises, and the symptoms seem to be diminishing. Has anyone ever known of a case as mine? Is this gradual diminishing real or simply a temporary illusion?

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I'm glad you replied. Nothing I've stated demonstrates my low self esteem any more than what you stated would demonstrate your inflated ego. My statements didn't reflect that, it is only your assumption due to your initial post and my reply, while your statements being incomplete did demonstrate that. I'm glad you didn't take any offense and can reason my reply but sometimes that can simply be a way of reducing things to avoid the truth. Your compliments to Phi and Ophi does imply that you are above them and your indifference toward others, hence you deliver the compliment as you do. You did state that "jerk" are playing a game, hence my referring to them as actors. I actually like what you said because it clarifies a feeling that I have had as well. I think what really made me mad was you last statement about stupidity being a given. I feel like strangling people who do this to others. It belittles others and torments them by putting pressure on them. I think people should be more considerate of others, but I know they can only do so to the extent of their awareness. That would suggest that their actions are more indicative of their mentality than others. As for your wife feeling badly when you compliment others. Maybe that should clue you in on your approach. We often other people understand our position, but if we don't make it clear to them it isn't their fault to assume otherwise. I am sure she would not be mad unless your emotions suggest to her that you are insulting her or you haven't demonstrated to her that you love her. Sometimes being straightforward and not expounding on our thoughts could facilitate paranoia. One thing we have to realize is that there should be no dominance or winners, both people work toward clarifying a situation. If it was inadvertent, you should feel bad that she feels bad. But, do you? What do you think that suggests? I know many losers who like to play games with people, but that doesn't make the others lesser, it only suggests that the other doesn't understand what they are doing. I am not able to determine your , only you can do that, but I do justify my thoughts. I'm glad we can criticize each others arguments. But believe me, I have little problems with self esteem. I am having a research paper published in June on the destructive nature of hate. I have realized that it is self destructive. I am also currently working on another research paper directly related, about value of respect. I doubt anyone can threaten me or can easily make me self conscious. However, I would never flatter myself with my position nor amuse myself with my knowledge. I've realized others are equally capable as myself and I know that the only way to help people is to empower them. I guess that would suggest why I was angry at you. I don't have the low self esteem that it would require to establish myself over others. I chose to love people rather compete with them. Anyway, I hope you can take all of this with a little bit of sugar. I truly enjoy it.

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Permit me to be a jerk and tell you what I really think of your ideas. I think you're the exact thing that you oppose in Dr. House. For instance you say that Phi for All and Ophiolite make the best points, but you don't quote or refer to them nor do you criticise the ideas put forth by others. It is a clever way to elevate yourself above everyone engaged in this discussion by putting two people slightly below you and others below them. Instead of simply making your statements you throw in this tidbit before anything else. Then you continue to state that jerks are actors, playing a role for its significance so that they can stand out in a group. Is that really what a jerk is? If others didn't annoy that person they would not do what they do. They may flatter themselves but I doubt it is an act. I think they do not recognize that "umms" and "what do i think about that" allow people to think and they would do the same things if they were not so intent on badgering others for their use. The problem is that they do not understand others or are trying desperately to prevent themselves from succumbing as they do not have the power to engage and maintian themselves, not that they are expecting others to play sheep. The self flattery develops into an act as they see themselves above others and they continue to seek such groupings and when among similar others they talk about how others are fools. You end by stating that you have been looking for an excuse to tear down the character of Dr. House. Most people I hear talk like that sit in starbucks sipping coffee and pretend they're working on their screenplays. No self respecting person would do the things you have done in this one post.

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So, jerks find others to be jerks?

I want to introduce myself. I have always perceived Psychology to be only about Abnormal Psychology. I also never thought that I could earn a degree as an Indian person. I look forward to studying Social, Personality, and Organizational Psychology in graduate school. I have just completed my first year as a Psychology major undergraduate. I have taken Introduction to Psychology, Theories of Personality, Social Psychology, and Human Sexuality. I have visited this forum when they didn't have a folder for Psychology. Sometimes I get bored but I find that talking in clubs is not necessarily productive. I find that writing allows a person to analyze their thoughts and as a result is more productive. I hope to have some stimulating discussions with you guys.

How about being a jerk as the result of a philosophical dilemma? Maybe people are jerks because they realize that none truly love or respect them. For instance, a person may think that others like them because they are beautiful or they may think that people want to be in their presence because of need? I also think that some people cannot prevent themselves from saying what is on their mind. Being a jerk can be a reaction to the perceived stupidity of others and not having the ability to remain calm or speaking appropriately because of a lack of understanding. Like another poster stated, behavior occurs within context. Sometimes people do not have a grasp on mores and other times differences between culture can affect how people interact and are perceived. Sometimes we think we can be friendly with another but we don't realize that that person does not know us well enough to accept "our kind" of friendliness as it is intended. Bullies are usually the result of having the power to act. If weakness is seen in others, it is natural to overpower. It takes effort to prevent yourself from harassing others. Having to inflict injury on others to reduce ones own pains cannot be classified as being a bully or a jerk. I think it is more serious than the other examples I have provided. I think that the main quality of a jerk is having the intent to manipulate others, use, and even abuse people without regard. A good analysis of interaction with cross cultural research will shed some light .