Let's go through this. You've stated already that you'd like to declare:
[math]\Delta f(x) = f(x+h) - f(x)[/math].
Okay. I can deal with that. Now, the idea is that, yes, you have some small change [math]h = \Delta t[/math]. So, we divide through by this:
[math]\frac{\Delta f(x)}{\Delta t} = \frac{f(x+h) - f(x)}{h}[/math].
Now, taking [math]\Delta t \to 0[/math],
[math]\lim_{\Delta t \to 0} \frac{\Delta f(x)}{\Delta t} = \frac{df}{dt}[/math].
The idea being that you divide through by some finite amount to start off with, and as you let that finite amount get arbitrarily small, we obtain the derivative.
Setting dt = 1 just doesn't make sense.