say mass doesn't directly bend spacetime. say the graviton is what actually bends spacetime. massive particles just emit gravitons. the farther the gravitons get from the source, the more spread out they are, therefore the force is weaker (which makes sense, with the inverse-square law). gravitons don't need to be absorbed, they just are emmitted. i am guessing the mass would determine the graviton emmission rate. i wouldn't even know how to start making equations to compare to gr. i don't even know how to do tensor calculus, so i couldn't compare with gr if i had the equations. there is probably some qm stuff that i need to factor in. this is just a base idea for now. in the diagram, there are two objects with different masses. the green lines are graviton paths.