I think ET's will communicate with us when they think we are ready. You only have to look at what happened when our "advanced" civilisation was forced onto red indians, aborigines, etc. We wrecked their socieites.
Imagine aliens landing tomorrow. They have the cure for every disease and help us feed everybody, so putting us nearer a population doomsday. They give us technology which will put over 95% of us out of work and those people will do what? They reveal certain truths to us which shows various religious and scientific beliefs to be totally wrong and so on. And of course, we fight people not just over colour, religion, and such but imagine if these ET's are not human in appearance. Imagine the religious establishment saying they are Satan's emmissaries as well as the political establishment denouncing them as they see power slipping away from them.
We are still far too warlike to be given bigger and better weapons. The technology may not start as weapons but mankind has a genius for converting even peaceful things into new methods of killing. If you were a peaceful alien race, would you trust mankind in your part of the galaxy?