Captain,
You are on the correct track with your calculations based on the Perry data. I will come back to this.
The problem is that mixing ethanol with water is the microscopic equivalent of a builder mixing a bucket of sand with a bucket of stone and not finishing up with 2 buckets of mixture. In a similar way as the sand fits between the stones, the ethanol and water molecules are able to pack together more tightly.
Let's look at the definition of volume %. It is not the volume after separating the components as you suggested. A 40% ethanol by volume solution is made up by (say) taking 40 ml of ethanol and then adding however much water is required to give 100 ml of mixture. If you did this at 20 deg C you would find that you needed to add 63.34 ml of water to bring the total volume to 100 ml. So we have the weird situation where a solution can have 40 vol% of one component and 63.34 vol% of the other. It's simply a function of the way vol % is defined.
Getting back to your calculation - As you correctly calculated when you added 1 liter of ethanol to 1 liter of water, you get 1.9289 liters of mix with a mass of 1.787 kg and the mass % is 44.15%. Now that we have the definition of vol% we can work this out to be (100 * 1/1.9289 ) = 51.84 vol%. This is one point on your conversion table and you could work all the way through the Perry data and build up the complete table you need.
In fact, it is even more complicated than this. A 50 vol% mixture at 20 deg C would have a strength of 50.91 vol% at 80 deg C because ethanol has a higher coefficient of thermal expansion than water. If you do find a conversion table just be aware of the temperature to which it applies.
How do I know all this useless info? I have worked a lot in ethanol distillery design where it is much easier to do all the calculations based on mass%, but for historical reasons the clients always want the answers in vol%. I do not know the site rules here about whether I am allowed to say it here, but I have written and I sell a computer program that does these conversions. The program will work in evaluation mode for 30 days for free, so if you want to download it and draw up the table for yourself it is available from http://katmarsoftware.com Follow the links to AlcoDens.
Alternatively you could type the Perry data into a spreadsheet and do it that way.