The reality of the bonding is no where near as simple as that. Sharing electrons is more like a model that gives us generally the right answers, and allows us to start understanding chemistry but isn't real. You have to remember that the atoms don't really look the way they are drawn, with a shell convienently missing an electron and another atom that just happens to have another one that matches up nicely. The atoms are three dimensional and have three dimensional electron clouds. Each Cl is bound to 6 Na's and vice versa forming a lattice. The charge is stabilised over the whole lattice. Even that doesn't really tell us what is going on. To get the true picture you would need to describe the system quantum mechanically, which I probably couldn't do myself, and besides, unless you understand quantum mechanics yourself that answer probably won't be any more fulfilling than sharing electrons.
I'm pretty sure he doesn't mean the four fundamental forces, just the four forces mentioned previously in the thread. He was saying tht Van der waals are weak intermolecular forces, not that they were the weak (nuclear) force.