The more accepted definition is, as far as I'm aware, the idea that anything living has the ability to self sustain: metabolism, growth, reproduction, adaptation to environment etc. This may be some answer to your question on the 'condition', since the organism is balancing its existence with the environment around it, rather than being a part of it. Of course this is a loose definition, mainly because no definitive list has been decided upon, other than simply describing features that life on our planet exhibits/shares. In some cases, such as with viruses, many of these conditions are met, but not enough for them to be considered 'alive' in the same sense as most life on earth, which poses some very big questions.
The origin of life is another broken aspect of our understanding. If the theories of life simply springing into life from simple chemical compounds is true, then i see no reason why life couldn't spring up elsewhere if the conditions are there, though again what is to say these other 'living' creatures/molecules/whatever bear any similarities to our definition of life at all? If we ever came across life this different, we may be incompatible in ways we can't yet comprehend.