Coral Rhedd

Here is an interesting link about Bipolar Disorder and severe childhood abuse. In fact, I have never known anyone with the disorder that over time, did not reveal significant abuse from his/her childhood. http://www.rxpgnews.com/article_335.shtml I hope this thread is not dead because I think it has points worth exploring and see no reason why they cannot be politely discussed. Regards to all, Coral

Reverse, I apologize if I am incorrect but I sense from your posts that you are a guy. Allow me to help you out here from the female side of the equation. The exchange you mention is coded. How do you feel today? -- Could mean any of the following: What sort of mood are you in; I want to request something. What sort of mood are you in; I want to have sex. What sort of mood are you in; let us have a heart to heart talk. What sort of mood are you in; because I want to share mine and I hope yours is similar. What sort of mood are you in; please tell me everything that ever had an emotional impact upon you from the ages of birth to infinity. I only asked how you felt; go make your own damn sandwich. Now all you have to figure out is by answering "Hungry" what real, deep, important emotion you are avoiding. Otherwise, just go make yourself a sandwich.

It was in The New York Times yesterday. Their online site would no doubt give you a source.

Poor Diana. What was done to her was truly dreadful. The marriage was contracted with bad faith on Charles' part. Think of it, an innocent 19 year old thinks she is going to become a fairy tale princess and live happily ever after and instead she gets a husband who is fixated on a hag. Someone should have told her the Royals were conducting business and that the dress, the carriage, and the cathedral were windowdressing. Perhaps Harry has a soul . . .

Newtonian, that's like saying there's a little schizophrenia in everyone. Narcissism is a brush you may tar someone with in debate because in has become part of are common culture. I see nothing in Ramin's arguments that indicate he suffers from narcissism. Narcissism is a true mental health problem both for the people that suffer from it and for the people that know the people who suffer from it. You can take this to the bank: There are people in these forums who display narcissism. You just tarred the wrong guy. You gave me a link on it. Rest assured, I have researched it a quite a bit before I ever received your link. I thank you for trying to educated us nonetheless.

I think the agape type of love might achieve even better results.

No. But if you will look back at previous posts, you will glean that I don't think there should be a pledge at all. I don't believe school and the activities of should be for anything but educational purposes. As a former substitute teacher, I saw an enormous amount of time wasted on non-educational activities. I also don't think that they should have that dreadful television station pipe in that mandatory news with its mandatory advertising of skateboards and sugary treats. Perhaps you haven't actually visited a public school lately and seen the chaos that often reigns. Oh yes, and they should take out the vending machine full of caffienated sodas and candy. They should stop selling cheetos and pizzas in the hallways. As you can see syntax, I am a purist and my postition is consistent: The purpose of school is education, not indoctrination, whether such indoctrination be for the benefit of Pepsi Cola or the United States Government. I will be offering no futher comments in this thread. My participation in it is ended.

Should I mention what I am about to mention? Okay, you guys don't know where I live so here goes: When I was a teaching adjunct at a local community college, I had a student plagiarized his essays from the internet. He didn't even properly purchase them. He just copied sample essays verbatim. The first time I did this I took his essay and the internet essay and layed them in front of the division head side by side. He told me to give this guy another chance. So I did despite my misgivings. For instance, the student handbook said this guy should recieve a zero. When this guy did it twice more and when his exit exam looked very suspicious as well, I again went to the division head. He said he would look these over and let me know but he said that this student was claiming I had said something racist to him in private. This was utterly untrue. I waited to hear from the division head on how I should handle the student's plagiarism. I wanted to give him an F and told the division head so. After all, my other students had to work for their grades. Now understand, adjuncts can get paid very little and their positions are always tenuous. I had been hired on a temporary basis for the semester. Previous to my hiring I had just been through a major and costly health crisis and the resulting bills left me near bankruptcy. I definitely wanted to be rehired. Finally I got the word just before grades needed to be turned in. I was to pass the plagiarizing student. So I did. I did not get rehired. I have since learned that while the college publicly demands honest work from students that they often overlook plagiarizism. Instead, they are eagering touting their retention rate. Not flunking students who plagiarize is one way they keep their retention rate up. Silly me. I don't know what I was thinking.

Forgetfulness can be caused by serious problems. Or it can just mean you are distracted by many interesting things going on in your life. If forgetfulness is a serious problem maybe you can get your folks to buy you a Palm. Or maybe one of those cool laptops with a built in microphone. In all seriousness, I have ADD and I am devising strategies all the time to help me remember things. If I write these ideas down on paper, I generally lose the paper. That's why I try to record almost everything important into my computer Personal Information Manager. I also religiously back up my info. On the hard copy side of the equation, I have a Tickler file. This has file folders labeled 1-31. You can buy these pretty cheaply. It allows me to store all work-related paperwork in it. For instance, tomorrow is the 12th. I have to attend a training for my dog for which I need his vaccination records and I have a meeting on 501©3 nonprofit for which I am VP. All the paperwork on these two items are stored in the file numbered 12. When I am through for the day, I will restore the dog's vaccination records to my regular file and I will put the 501©3 papers in the file for the date of the next meeting on the 26th in the Tickler File numbered 26. If you are having trouble remembering, it is your responsibility to devise strategies that will help you. You have already found one way to do that with your notebook idea, wisely using something that suits you. Good luck for your future success.

LOL! 5614, you sound just like my mother who is in her eighties. When she starts talking to me that way, I practically go deaf. All these years from childhood and she can still bring out the passive-agression in me like no one else.

I am not British but I am "absolutely delighted." Now they can stop sneaking around. Slate has an amusing take on this: http://slate.msn.com/id/2113387/

Read the labels. What they advertise and what is actually in the products can be quite different. I've searched for over five years and I've yet to find a shampoo that doesn't irritate my scalp. However I can wear perfume and have no problem with it -- except for one that makes me quite ill. I know there are folks who would like to have a fragrance free world. In fact, I work with a woman who has sensitivities/environmental illness. When I know I am seeing her that day, I am as fragrance free as I can make myself while she reeks of aromatic oils that she applies to "rebalance." Frankly, I am confused. If fragrance is bad for her, why is she wearing it?

Parents are people. They say things that are ill-considered sometimes. I always wanted to see my daughter working up to her potential but I could not always see clearly what that potential was. Perhaps your parents want you attend an Ivy League school and become an attorney and eventually a national or world leader. Parents can have very unrealistic dreams for their children. What do you want to do? Who do you want to be? If you have not made up your mind yet (entirely understandable) then you might ask for your parents guidance. Explain to them that being a garbage collector serves a useful purpose in society and that someone has to do it. (Just kidding. ) Alternatively, you could find a middle ground. You could show them your assignments and the approach you use for completing assigments within the allotted time. If you are already working up to your potential, they should have little complaint.

Does you belief depend upon your ability to recite the pledge? Yes or no. I never said you wanted to hurt me. I said you were not capable of hurting me. To expand, any opinion you may have about me personally or even opinions you may have about choices I made in my life do not especially interest me. Therefore, how could you possibly hurt me? This meant that if you were attempting to do so, you were wasting your time.

I hope you are not saying here that the personality disorder, Narcissism, is a genetic disease. If so, please provide a source so that I may improve my understanding. I don't see that Ramin is relying on science much. He is offering a broader argument and he is relying on logic. About evasion: Newtonian, let me remind you that you did not answer my question to you about drug addiction. Perhaps you did not mean to evade but only forgot.

Yes, I get it. The "missing link" you would like to include in the "argument" that is ongoing not only in this thread but in society at large is too threatening to be considered because it challenges people parental, social, and political assumptions. Using pure logic as the grounds upon which to define and argue your position and rejecting all other approaches to understanding puts those other approaches to a distinct disadvantage. And to think that, when you started this thread, I merely thought you were some kind of "nut." I read you as mostly defining a deficient environment as any environment that is not proactive. If this is so, then the question arises: Are you defining deficiency as any unmet need that the organism may have? If we acknowledge this as true, then what we must create is an environment that is % effecient at meeting needs and thus responsive to the individual's illness in ways that I suggest we cannot yet understand. If you are defining deficiency only as a lack of proper care and by this you meaning a lack of that emotional affinity that makes empathy and caring possible, then it is essential that you begin defining deficiency more specifically. Otherwise, intelligent discussion cannot proceed. What would be a sufficient environment for an child that carried a gene for alcoholism? 1. Not being reared by parents who also carried that same gene and may, although they may not be alcoholics, have learned their familial behavior from their own alcoholic and thus behave like dry drunks? Should automatic adoption be required in such instances. 2. Never having access to alcohol? Should we outlaw liquor altogether? This type of solution seems not to have worked for drugs. 3. Provide treatment even prior to the manifestation of the disease. The words "could be" in your above paragraph gives me visions of entering a maze from which we could never emerge. How then would one find out anything? To a large degree, I believe you are correct here. But are positive reactions enough to turn diseases like autism around or -- even more unlikely -- prevent them from emerging in the first place? With respect, Coral Rhedd

With all due respect AzurePhoenix, even if I were inclined to switch my sexual orientation and you were so inclined as well, I am old enough to be your mother. I am much more likely to pat your hand, bake you cookies, and tell you that there are enough unwanted children in the world.

Syntax, please see my post #148 in answer to your last question. As to your other questions, I suggest you review what I actually wrote -- in context.

Your writing skills. Hope you continue to hone them.

I'd like to see you explain the canoodling remark. Go ahead. Give it a try. And don't forget the "details."

AzurePhoenix, this link's for you. http://www.tourettes-disorder.com/symptoms/tics.html

I'd prefer to wait for Newtonian's response before offering my opinion. Of course I have. Except for my tea and Celebrex break, I've been glued. Did you respond to my questions in your post #88? How do you know I am running? How do you know I am not listening? I think it would be rather shallow of me to come to a decisive conclustion based upon the evidence offered on either side. With great respect to Azure Phoenix for providing an anecdote, most people (I don't exclude you.) seem to be offering many opinions with little evidence. I am also wondering if you have an agenda. With all respect to your mention of a deficient environment, which I think you are saying results from deficient care, I have no idea what your solution to that deficiency might be. For all I know you want to execute parents who do not understand their child's every nuance. I think that might be a little extreme.