Just looking for some suggestion

[Sea]

First I'd like to tell you that I'm Chinese.

And I can't use English very well, so please just ignore my grammar mistakes,thanks.

 

I got a serious problem recently.

 

I have a very good friend

We have same interests,same religion,same future dream.

It may hard to believe,but I just be honesty say that, we have never had any confliction. It's just amazing.We have been good friends for 4 years.

 

But now I find one thing ,which make me...feel horrible.

 

He is Multiple-personality Disorders.

 

In the past we (me and high school classmates) thought he is Asperger's syndrome.

Because he is clever, but shy,and can't speak fluently. He don't like the crowd.

When I reach at him at the beginning, he even can't talk to me.

 

But after we get to know each other,I find that some times he is stammering, but sometime he speaks well,just like normal people.

At that time I thought maybe that's because he accept me,he regard me as his friend.

 

Now I find I'm a stupid person.

That's because he is not one person,he is "two people"!

 

I find the fact first,and I asked him.

He replied angrily(he never be angry to anyone before),and said:We are friend, but you shouldn't know everything about me! I can deal that problem by myself! That's my own business!

 

I write this to ask for help.

How can I do with it ?

 

I'm scared to tell other friends(Chinese), and as you see, now I am even scared to ask for help in Chinese web.

I'm afraid that if I ask these in Chinese web,he will be angry with me.

I don't want to lose this friend.

 

But I also feel bad!

 

I search on the web for some event like this,those people say,when you face a Multiple-personality Disorders,

you should be friendly with them,because they are innocent...blah blah blah blah...

 

I think that's just shit!

 

How can I be like that?

Yes, because I don't want to lose him,I promise him that I won't mention the thing anymore.

So now I greet with him,talk some old things as before...

But I can feel we can't be what we are before!

 

I feel uncomfortable.

I can't forget the fact,maybe I can act as if nothing happened,but I know he is Multiple-personality Disorders exactly.

 

Now I just use usual words to talk with him,but I don't like that feeling.

 

I don't know how to deal with him, and I don't know how to deal with myself(when I face him),either.

 

If any of you have this kind of experience,please tell me what should I do

 

I will thank you for ever

Edited November 17, 2010 by Sea

[skyhook]

Are you a girl ?

How do you know he has Multiple-personality Disorder ? What are the symptoms or any unusual behavior ?

[ewmon]

Nothing that you've said shows your friend to have multiple personalities.

 

Most of what you describe shows your friend to be shy and introverted and protective of his personal life. What he and you consider to be parts of a friendship are slightly different. You could apologize for saying something too personal for him but that you did it out of sincere concern for him and that you want to continue being friends. Maybe this needs to be done over the phone to avoid face-to-face embarrassment. You know best.

 

But I don't see multiple personalities here.

[Sea]

Well...about the behavior

He don't know that he has registered on some website and post for several times(those content and tone are quite different from what he behaves normally,and from those content I can find him a sonsy person)

 

And then I find sometmes he can remember what we have talked before,and he speak fluently,but sometimes he can't remember(totally the same thing),and be stammering.

 

Thanks ewmon to give me the suggestion.