Women are better at forgiving

[Silence Resonance]

 

A study by the University of the Basque Country (UPV/EHU) has carried out the first Spanish study into the emotional differences between the sexes and generations in terms of forgiveness. According to the study, parents forgive more than children, while women are better at forgiving than men. "This study has great application for teaching values, because it shows us what reasons people have for forgiving men and women, and the popular conception of forgiveness", Maite Garaigordobil, co-author of the study and a senior professor at the Psychology Faculty of the UPV, tells SINC.

 

This study, which has been published in the Revista Latinoamericana de Psicología, is the first to have been carried out in Spain. It shows that parents find it easier to forgive than their children, and that women are better at forgiving than men.

 

"A decisive factor in the capacity to forgive is empathy, and women have a greater empathetic capacity than males", Carmen Maganto, co-author of the study and a tenured professor at the Psychology Faculty of the UPV, tells SINC.

 

The results, which were measured using a scale to assess the ability to forgive (CAPER), and a scale of forgiveness and facilitating factors (ESPER), show that there are differences in the reasons that encourage forgiveness according to people's age and sex.

 

What drives forgiveness?

 

Children believe that "one forgives with time", while parents point to reasons such as "remorsefulness and forgiving the other person" and "legal justice".

 

The authors of this study say that parents who have forgiven most over the course of their lives have an increased capacity to forgive "in all areas". Parents and children use similar definitions of forgiveness. Not bearing a grudge, reconciliation and understanding-empathy are the terms most used by both groups to define forgiveness.

 

However, there are greater differences between men and women. Both see "not bearing a grudge" as the best definition of forgiveness, but men place greater importance on this characteristic.

 

Lack of bitterness is the key

 

The study, which was carried out with the collaboration of 140 participants (parents and children aged between 45 and 60, and 17 and 25, respectively), highlights two key conditions for a person to be forgiven. One is for them to "show remorse" and the second is for the person who has been offended "not to bear a grudge".

 

The experts say the family environment plays a key role in transmitting ethical values. "This result is especially interesting in situations where families are in crisis and no basic education can be expected of them in terms of values. This education is largely transferred to the school", the researchers explain.

 

The research "opens up many new questions" for the two investigators, who believe it is "necessary to study the role that forgiveness plays in psychological treatment, especially among victims of sexual abuse, physical and psychological maltreatment and marital infidelity, as well as other situations".

 

 

Source: FECYT - Spanish Foundation for Science and Technology

Edited February 19, 2011 by Silence Resonance

[Marat]

While young scholars being introduced to the beauties of scientific objectivity are encouraged to laugh at the entanglement of science in politics and social value systems in Galileo's mistreatment by the Church for daring to challenge Catholic doctrine, people seem to forget that the same thing goes on today. Thus, for example, the profoundly politically incorrect scientific discoveries made by Ontario psychology professor Philip Rushdon about the correlation between race and intelligence and social self-discipline have been suppressed and criticized around the world, any study that can be designed to make males look bad immediately gets a wide hearing and everyone just nods in approval, since it conforms to 'Church' doctrine -- with the new version of the established religion being the required view that whites and males are evil and everyone else is great.

 

A century from now we will be held up to ridicule for our own politicization of science and objectivity, but few can see their way through the forces of social control while they are living within them. See Arne Hoffman's 'Sind Frauen bessere Menschen?' ('Are Women Better Humans?')

[DrRocket]

These "researchers" have obviously not met my mother-in-law.

 

 

[lemur]

While young scholars being introduced to the beauties of scientific objectivity are encouraged to laugh at the entanglement of science in politics and social value systems in Galileo's mistreatment by the Church for daring to challenge Catholic doctrine, people seem to forget that the same thing goes on today. Thus, for example, the profoundly politically incorrect scientific discoveries made by Ontario psychology professor Philip Rushdon about the correlation between race and intelligence and social self-discipline have been suppressed and criticized around the world, any study that can be designed to make males look bad immediately gets a wide hearing and everyone just nods in approval, since it conforms to 'Church' doctrine -- with the new version of the established religion being the required view that whites and males are evil and everyone else is great.

 

A century from now we will be held up to ridicule for our own politicization of science and objectivity, but few can see their way through the forces of social control while they are living within them. See Arne Hoffman's 'Sind Frauen bessere Menschen?' ('Are Women Better Humans?')

Ironically, I don't think there's much forgiveness of "white men" in the culture that scapegoats them for the sake of relieving self-hatred and inferiority complexes among the post-oppressed. The guiding logic seems to be more, "whenever you feel angry, give your white-man punching bag a punch and you'll feel a little better." You must admit that this culture was developed historically by white men though, right?

Edited February 20, 2011 by lemur

[John Cuthber]

While young scholars being introduced to the beauties of scientific objectivity are encouraged to laugh at the entanglement of science in politics and social value systems in Galileo's mistreatment by the Church for daring to challenge Catholic doctrine, people seem to forget that the same thing goes on today.

 

 

Yes, just the other day someone at work was burned at the stake for not accepting the dogma; and I have been under house arrest for heresy for 6 months now (I'm not sure I dare mention what it was that I believed and that I only believed it because it's what the evidence showed). Still, I'm better off than the last guy- he died while they were torturing him. In the meantime the boss still refuses to look through the telescope because he knows that he couldn't see the moons of Jupiter because they are not there- the dogma says do.

[ewmon]

Women are better at forgiving

Maybe women forgive other women, but they almost never forgive men for anything.