Popcorn Sutton Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 If you accept that we are machines, then you accept that we are at least mostly programmed by our environment, and probably even more so by language. If someone gets input that prompts them to act a certain way, then there is a person involved in the behavior, and their weapon was their words.... Another attempted suicide prompted me to post. There needs to be an established and reliable solution to abuse, physical or mental (like theres any difference).
lassez Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 There can be a situation when a person is forced to suicide by mistake or foolishness. If some people believe that they know the reason why some one is suicidal, but there ideas about the reason is more based on there own way of thinking. Then it can happen that they, instead of helping the suicidal, forces him to the suicide. Think it happens in sects, where the sect members are so indoctrinated to think in their own narrow way, that they believe the suicidals problems depends on that they does not live in there way that they believe is the way he aught to live. If the suicidal is struggling against being bullied by people that are trying to push there thoughts on him. Then the attempts to rescue will only worsen the problem, and in worst case force him to suicide. There can be a situation when a person is forced to suicide by mistake or foolishness. If some people believe that they know the reason why some one is suicidal, but there ideas about the reason is more based on there own way of thinking. Then it can happen that they, instead of helping the suicidal, forces him to the suicide. Think it happens in sects, where the sect members are so indoctrinated to think in their own narrow way, that they believe the suicidals problems depends on that they does not live in there way that they believe is the way he aught to live. If the suicidal is struggling against being bullied by people that are trying to push there thoughts on him. Then the attempts to rescue will only worsen the problem, and in worst case force him to suicide.
Popcorn Sutton Posted June 21, 2013 Author Posted June 21, 2013 (edited) Think it happens in sects, where the sect members are soindoctrinated to think in their own narrow way, that they believe the suicidals problems depends on that they does not live in there way that they believe is the way he aught to live. If the suicidal is struggling against being bullied by people that are trying to push there thoughts on him. Then the attempts to rescue will only worsen the problem, and in worst case force him to suicide. I have seen it happen in families where the son is actually being bulliedby the parents and even the grandparents. These people are so off the wall that the way they act indirectly hurts other people because the son cannot meet his needs so he consistently asks others to help. This pisses off a lot of people because now those people, who are not family and only friends, are not only giving away leisures to the victim, but the victim is also asking for food, shelter, drinks to keep him hydrated, and to top it all off, the person (who I consider the victim in this case) is also stealing from the people that do care for him so he can sell or take what he gets for later. He goes home and Mom wonders where he has been. They get into a fight and Mom says "You should just kill yourself, you'd be doing us all a big favor." This, in my opinion, is murder. The son goes off and cuts his arms all up. This is not the only bad behavior happening in that house either, I've gone over there once and he asked Grandpa if I could come in, Grandpa looked at me, said "No", and closed the door. There has also been other times where his mom calls me up bitching over the phone to bring him home because he needs to come home. It got so bad that I told his mom that I wasn't going to contact him anymore on her behalf and that I wasn't going to make it known when she had made an effort to contact him. I've heard too many stories of abuse in that household and I don't doubt that it has been going on for years. He's told me stories of when he was a kid and almost got kidnapped, ran home, told his step mom what had happened where she decided that she was going to call him a liar and have dad beat him. I've witnessed what this family does to him first hand and he is really a kind and gentle, intelligent, loving person. However, he is extremely unlucky to be born into that environment because I know that if I were him, I probably would have grown to be the same way. Part of me is remorseful for saying those things to his mother, andafterwards she proceeded to abuse me and tell me what a loser I am, that I am a joke, and whatever else she said, only because I know that it caused another fight between her and her son, but I couldn't help myself and I would probably do the same thing again if I had the chance. This family is so dysfunctional in my opinion, their son, who is otherwise a perfectly good person, cannot meet his needs, and mooches off of others whenever possible (and often, it is necessary). Put some food in your fridge and tell your kids that you love them, is thattoo much to ask? Life will be much much better for both of you. I do not believe that attempts to rescue the victim will always worsenthe problem, especially if the victim is treated for his mental health individually and confidentially. However, if someone attempts to rescue the victim, but does not give them an option to leave the place that they live in, and also gets involved with the parents, then yes it can make the problem worse (as if the problem is not bad enough, it may just be the case that it stays the same). Edited June 21, 2013 by Popcorn Sutton
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