Narcissistic personality disorder

[Marshalscienceguy]

Narcissistic personality disorder is someone who is self centered, lacks remorse for others, has a delusion they are more than they are or are not what they are, might believe they are without flaw and will sometimes take on personas since they have no real sense of Identity. However how can you tell when someone is suffering from the disorder or the people around them are just intolerant?

 

If someone happens to dress odd or act odd but is not really breaking rules or bothering someone and told they are a bother should they stop? If someone is quiet, to themselves do not have a lot of friends and loves the color red should they have to stop wearing red since a group of people say "I despise the color red"! Does saying "No I like red" make this person self centered? If these people do not present a logical reason to stop?

 

They are bothering people and they do not care. No I am not saying being obnoxious is a good thing but at what point does it become selfish behavior? Really anything you do can bother someone so wouldn't that mean we are all suffering from this disorder? For not wanting to be follow exactly what everyone else is following? You can try to please everyone but it does not always work. I mean none of us are that perfect. Those of us who are might just be lying to please others. So what is the difference between enjoying your independence and narcissistic personality disorder? Both might seem selfish but is it really selfish to want to have your own interests and just be you? Are we suppose to mold our personalities to please the world? and if we cant does that make you a narcissist?

 

At what point does something become selfish? Can one really expect a person to change absolutely everything just to please them?

Edited January 28, 2014 by Marshalscienceguy

[Endy0816]

How to put it...

 

It is okay to be selfish, it is not okay to be selfish 24/7. That is how I see it anyways.

 

Mainly what you are talking about(and possibly feeling) sounds like peer pressure.

[petrushka.googol]

As far as I know a narcissist is not an agent of change. He / She is self-obsessed to the point of apotheosis. The leads to the situation in Greek myth. May be anorexia and bulimia are subtle manifestations of this condition. (narcissus ultimately died of grief).