True Love in action !

[Commander]

Over the years I have noticed that a characteristic of True love between people is to exhibit the following behaviour !

 

If someone has TRUE LOVE for someone else he/she allows that Person to take oneself for granted.

 

Call it for granted or take advantage of or ignore etc it is one and the same.

 

It engenders empathy tolerance and indulgence or closeness and avoids friction over it.

 

Everyone does not allow this privilege to all and sundry unless it is one's own nature and he/she can love the entire nature.

 

Can not extend that to any Tom, .... , or Harry OR Pam, ...., or Mary for that matter !

 

Of course if the one loved so abuses this privilege by over indulgence TRUE LOVE will be under attack !

 

It is a good Policy to GIVE and NOT TAKE in this regard !

[Phi for All]

If someone has TRUE LOVE for someone else he/she allows that Person to take oneself for granted.

 

I don't understand what you mean, and I think it's because you have a certain definition of "take oneself for granted" that you've personalized but aren't explaining well. I think there's a difference between taking someone for granted, and taking advantage of that person. Intent seems to be the key there. Taking advantage is an active, intentional, purposeful event, where taking for granted is more like passive, unintentional neglect.

 

I also think "TRUE LOVE" is a subjective notion, something you can't throw a blanket over and claim it's the same for everyone.

[Commander]

 

I don't understand what you mean, and I think it's because you have a certain definition of "take oneself for granted" that you've personalized but aren't explaining well. I think there's a difference between taking someone for granted, and taking advantage of that person. Intent seems to be the key there. Taking advantage is an active, intentional, purposeful event, where taking for granted is more like passive, unintentional neglect.

 

I also think "TRUE LOVE" is a subjective notion, something you can't throw a blanket over and claim it's the same for everyone.

 

Sorry Phil,

 

I put a lot of thought into very few words and has been grossly misunderstood perhaps drawing that neg response.

 

All I meant to say is if people love each other they are not fuzzy about small and petty instances and react negatively but accommodate such incidents easily for the sake of love [which they may not do to others]

 

This attitude will be enriching the relationship.

 

That is as simple as I can state.

 

Small instances can not rock the boat and no sense of insult / ego hurt arises.

Edited September 17, 2015 by Commander

[Phi for All]

It sounds like you want Mary to forgive you for what you think is a small indiscretion, but Mary isn't having any. In fact, she got downright fuzzy about it.

[Commander]

It sounds like you want Mary to forgive you for what you think is a small indiscretion, but Mary isn't having any. In fact, she got downright fuzzy about it.

 

No, it was just to rhyme with any Tom, .ick or Harry with the other gender equivalent

[neutrinosalad]

 

I also think "TRUE LOVE" is a subjective notion, something you can't throw a blanket over and claim it's the same for everyone.

 

True love is a conceptually flat notion in my mind. Even if the idea of what it is varies from person to person, when you take into account the definition that is disseminated to society en masse through the movies, it is just that fuzzy feeling people get for each in the budding stage of a relationship.

 

This is one of the things that I find interesting how people can get lost in this notion that the emotions they feel during the stages of love somehow extend beyond their own being. These emotions are really just chemicals that our brains release in order to people to temporarily bond to their mates for the sake of reproduction.