Tampitump Posted October 8, 2016 Author Posted October 8, 2016 (edited) I really wish more people would read threads before participating... you know, or AT LEAST page 1... or maybe even just the OP... hell, I'd settle for reading just the very first sentence of the first post at this point. He's literally already provided this information five different times already: http://www.scienceforums.net/topic/96890-scientific-reasons-for-me-not-having-a-girlfriend/#entry934618 http://www.scienceforums.net/topic/96890-scientific-reasons-for-me-not-having-a-girlfriend/#entry935015 http://www.scienceforums.net/topic/96890-scientific-reasons-for-me-not-having-a-girlfriend/page-2#entry935083 http://www.scienceforums.net/topic/96890-scientific-reasons-for-me-not-having-a-girlfriend/page-4#entry935590 http://www.scienceforums.net/topic/96890-scientific-reasons-for-me-not-having-a-girlfriend/page-6#entry939383 He didn't know man. Not everybody can be a super resourceful genius. I've never spoken this member before, so it's understandable he didn't know my age. Edited October 8, 2016 by Tampitump
Alex_Krycek Posted October 9, 2016 Posted October 9, 2016 (edited) He didn't know man. Not everybody can be a super resourceful genius. I've never spoken this member before, so it's understandable he didn't know my age. Just some info about me. I lost my virginity at 28. I was abused when I was young and had a horrible time getting up the courage to talk to women, let alone put my hands on them or be sexual. However, I followed one of those seduction programs you can buy online, and after going out over and over again, talking to a whole bunch of women, I lost my virginity and ended up sleeping with 10 different women in little over a year. For me that was a big deal. The point is that I was as much of a lost cause as anyone, but through repeated action I changed my reality to how I wanted it to be. This is why I so firmly believe that any man can do it. Edited October 9, 2016 by Alex_Krycek
Tampitump Posted October 9, 2016 Author Posted October 9, 2016 This is why I so firmly believe that any man can do it. Not me. I'm the exception. Understanding why this is so would require meeting me. There is so much to do with body language, confidence, flirting, and generally the entire interaction that comes from already having some experience with women on a physical level. Tried it. There is not much one can do when they are so subversive of anything that could even remotely be considered pleasant to look at or be around. One possible solution for you, and I am not joking here: see a high quality escort You can't imagine how many times, and how often I still think about doing this. Of course, such a thing does not exist around here. I would have to go somewhere like Vegas or something. Money ends that dream. I have $0.00 to my name, literally. Getting a hooker solves nothing. It does not solve my issues with normal girls, and it would probably only have me feinding for sex without the ability to get my fix. Also, I doubt even a hooker would take me on. There have to limits to what they are willing to do. The other problem is that it just doesn't feel right for me. Regardless of how bad being a virgin at this age makes me feel, or how bad I want to experience sex, I just don't feel that I should do it. I don't feel like I'm the type who SHOULD have sex. Kind of like how jellyfish are not the type of fish that should be eaten. It would be a disservice to whoever the girl is who gets coaxed, coerced, bribed, or paid into being with me. I'm just not someone who should be having sex. Not only do I think this is the case, but I just would never feel right doing it. To have sex, you kind of have to feel sexy, or at least feel some sort of sex appeal in yourself. I am entirely barren of these feelings. I feel like a puddle of very gross and toxic waste that no one wants to see. It's almost as if people want to come throw kitty litter or some kind of powder on top of me so they can scoop me up and throw me away. Put that together with my shit personality and you have one entire undesirable person to the core.
Jvee86 Posted October 9, 2016 Posted October 9, 2016 You need to focus on Mathematics. Place yourself (as awkward or weird one might be) in front of and in as many situations with the intended gender as possible. There are others like you out there...Even attractive ones of the same mindset. That could fall for you in the right situation...at the right time, and place. But she's not at home or hiding under your bed...So get out there. I met my wife at an art show and just happened to almost knock over one of her paintings. Starting a mumbling conversation...many years later here we are. Two opposites who collided around an art show...And let me tell you, I despise all form of art. Unless you have some kind of mental illness...Most people have the same insecurities...Or similar ones as you. Prey on your own weaknesses in others... control and push your weaknesses.. 1
iNow Posted October 9, 2016 Posted October 9, 2016 Focusing on sex and dating right now is IMO a mistake. You need to focus on fixing you. You need to accept help.
Tampitump Posted October 9, 2016 Author Posted October 9, 2016 I'm not convinced an answer exists, and I'mm nearly convinced an answer doesn't exist.
Alex_Krycek Posted October 9, 2016 Posted October 9, 2016 (edited) Not me. I'm the exception. Understanding why this is so would require meeting me. Tried it. There is not much one can do when they are so subversive of anything that could even remotely be considered pleasant to look at or be around. I seriously doubt that you are that bad of a person. You are just stuck in a mindset of self hatred and self loathing which feels right to you because you have believed it for so long. Getting a hooker solves nothing. It does not solve my issues with normal girls, and it would probably only have me feinding for sex without the ability to get my fix. As far as your self esteem, then yes, it would solve nothing. You have to solve that. Escorts are more to help you become comfortable with the physical aspect of sex and the whole experience of pleasure, if you so choose. And chances are you would not fiend for sex afterwards. Perhaps you would see that sex is fun, but ultimately not that big a deal. Also, I doubt even a hooker would take me on. There have to limits to what they are willing to do. More negative self talk. I doubt you are that ugly or unattractive to where an escort would decline your business. It is their job to meet all different kinds of people, some with serious disabilities. The other problem is that it just doesn't feel right for me. Regardless of how bad being a virgin at this age makes me feel, or how bad I want to experience sex, I just don't feel that I should do it. I don't feel like I'm the type who SHOULD have sex. Kind of like how jellyfish are not the type of fish that should be eaten. It would be a disservice to whoever the girl is who gets coaxed, coerced, bribed, or paid into being with me. I'm just not someone who should be having sex. Not only do I think this is the case, but I just would never feel right doing it. To have sex, you kind of have to feel sexy, or at least feel some sort of sex appeal in yourself. I am entirely barren of these feelings. I feel like a puddle of very gross and toxic waste that no one wants to see. It's almost as if people want to come throw kitty litter or some kind of powder on top of me so they can scoop me up and throw me away. Put that together with my shit personality and you have one entire undesirable person to the core. Until you change these beliefs about yourself, there is nothing anyone else can do. Edited October 9, 2016 by Alex_Krycek
imatfaal Posted October 9, 2016 Posted October 9, 2016 ! Moderator Note I don't think this thread is helping. Thread locked. 1
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